We recently reached out to you – our social media followers & friends – to share your
golden nuggets of wisdom every new parent should know. Things you wished you’d realized
yourselves when looking back on those precious early weeks and months with a new baby.
Here’s what you had to say:
“You need to know your value.
Even though it doesn’t feel like you are doing something valuable,
you must remember you are.”
“Transitioning into motherhood is not always easy. Take your time and stop comparing yourself to other moms!”
“Pregnancy and birth can be out-of-control experiences. Please lower your standards and just enjoy your baby!”
“Join in in the pics. Your kids will want to see pics with you in them not just by themselves.
Capture times as a family, don’t just be the photographer.”
“Don’t be too hard on yourself – you’re doing great but if you need help don’t be afraid to ask.
It doesn’t mean you’re not doing a good job – it’s the hardest but best job in the world.”
“Hormones mean you might be extra sensitive and tearful during the first few weeks.
It’s good to prepare your partner in advance and ask for extra help with cleaning and cooking during the first months.
Many don’t realize how much time breastfeeding can take every day.”
“Trust your instincts; you know your baby the best.
There’s plenty of advice flying around, and you need to filter out what’s important for you and your baby.
I remember being worried whether I could look after a baby as I had no experience, but it’s amazing how naturally it comes.”
“Babies develop at their own pace. It’s no use stressing out and comparing your baby to other people’s babies
– for instance an active child may learn to speak a bit later.”
“Enjoy your baby to the full, give cuddles and kisses!
Of course, if the baby cries a lot, it’s not always so easy…
That’s when it’s important to get help, so you can sleep and recharge in between.”
“A happy parent is a good parent.
Organize your home before the birth, so it’s easier to keep tidy afterwards
and you can focus on looking after your baby and yourself.
You don’t have to do everything yourself – getting someone to clean and buying readymade food can be a lifesaver.”
“Be gentle to yourself, let go of your expectations and don’t compare yourself to others!
For instance, breastfeeding may not work out, but it’s not so serious.”
“The first months are tricky, but they pass by. Life will normalize again, promise!”
“Get out of the house for walks, a visit to a museum, coffee with a friend.
A change of scenery can do a world of good.”
“Rest whenever you can.
Don’t feel bad about saying no to people who want to visit
when you need time for yourself.”
We know for sure that every parent and baby is different. If you have any advice or thoughts you’d like
to add, the comment field is all yours!